A wise supervisor of mine once said, “Don’t let your strengths become your weaknesses.” We all have strengths that fuel our confidence. When those very same strengths fuel arrogance, they become a weakness.
There seems to be a fine line between being confident in yourself and being arrogant about yourself. One is an asset and the other is, well, not an asset. Confidence is such an important attribute that it is consistently listed by attraction gurus as a quality that will get you more dates than any other quality. One is viewed quite positively by peers, while the other not so much. One is valued by employers, while the other may be career threatening.
What Is The Difference Between Confidence And Arrogance?
Where is that line drawn? In research, confidence is being certain that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Typically, this certainty or confidence is based on empirical results. But more often than not our confidence or arrogance is rarely empirically based and is rather based on our own perceptions. Confidence is our belief, our perception, we have the necessary resources within our control to manage that we are facing. Arrogance is making sure everyone else knows we believe we have what is necessary to succeed.
Confidence is a very important ingredient in success. The belief we control the resources necessary to that success is presumed to be essential to actual success. By the way, the key word there is belief, as our confidence is based on our subjective assessment, not necessarily fact or reality.
Arrogance is sharing, even subtly, that confidence. Do you see the problem there? Hint: Bragging is rarely a good idea, but bragging about what you think subjectively can be a real problem.
" 'Confidence gets hired, arrogance gets shown the door.' "
Signs Your Confidence Is Morphing Into Arrogance
Arrogance: You are more likely to have answers than questions. In fact, you almost always have the answers, even when you don’t.
Confidence: You admit when don’t know the answer and are open to learning from others who do.
Arrogance: You seek to “one-up” others.
Confidence: You don’t need to brag on their accomplishments. You let your accomplishments speak for themselves.
Arrogance: You drop names to impress others.
Confidence: Your confidence impress them.
Arrogance: Your initial reaction to bad news is to blame others.
Confidence: You accept responsibility and learn for the future.
A key to career success is to become integral to the success of your team and organization. Rare is the time when arrogance will enhance your chances to contribute to that success. Be confident in your ability to contribute.
I read this recently, “Confidence gets hired, arrogance gets shown the door.”
You don’t want to find yourself on the wrong side of the door.